The Featured Image (☝🏽) is Sky and Ford being asked to pose with their full-time nanny, Tetiana Burrill. More on this situation in future posts.
This is the last post in this 5 part series, that takes a close look at what my marriage to Kristin Mehera Leiter Golestan was like. I’m sharing my experiences and evidence, all of which has already been shared with the Charleston Family Court, in hopes that it will show just how much Sky and Ford need to be with a stable parent, their loving Father, instead of a mother who is not up to the job of solo parenting.
A Dream Life—But Filled with Complaints
As I’ve explained more fully in another post (read here), Kristin’s lifestyle was something you’d see on TV—an American Dream. At age 33 she had a full-time nanny for our two children, who spent most of their day either in a nursery or at school – prior to our divorce Sky had been at Ashley Hall School for three years running, 7:30am-3pm every day.
Not only did Kristin not have to work, she had housekeepers available daily to cook, clean, organize and manage the household. And she had me! A full-time, fully-engaged, on the spot all the time happy to be there Dad.
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Running a Company—and Running Interference
While I was at work, running a company and managing 40+ staff members, I would also spend at least a few hours every day responding to Kristin’s text messages or phone calls complaining about the children. Check the timestamps on the Exhibits below!
Despite a Full-Time Nanny…
And housekeepers, and trainers, and psychics, and frequent, luxurious, in-home visits from manicurists, and hairdressers… Kristin never had enough help. Below are just a fraction of the complaints Kristin made to me about how hard she found it to be a mother. These are only the texts! Never mind the phone calls and in-person conversations.
Kristin would give Ford her prescription bottles full of controlled substances to keep
him engaged instead of actually playing with him or giving him one of his toys. As you can see in the picture, Ford had even put the prescription bottle in his mouth! In this incident, Kristin sent me a text complaining that both boys are a lot of work and that it “takes 10 yrs (to feed Ford) and he throws a tantrum if I’m not there when he wants his next bite.” You can read the exchange here.
Kristin Golestan: How Hard It Is… In 37 Installments.
- Kristin is sometimes inclined to beat Sky. [Exhibit-1]
- Please pick up her antidepressants from Walgreens because every day is a struggle with Sky. [Exhibit-2]
- Ford is difficult and I am now coming home–at midday, to take over. [Exhibit-3]
- She might run away. [Exhibit-4]
- Saying to the full-time Nanny, Tanya (pictured in the featured image above,) that Kristin is not mentally ready for the last day of school. [Exhibit-5]
- Kristin doesn’t want to be home at all. [Exhibit-6]
- Kristin tells her friend to go straight upstairs to Kristin’s room where the women can drink and hang out without the kids—at 3:51pm. [Exhibit-7]
- 6:15am, Ford awake, Kristin wants to cry, although the full-time nanny will be there at 8am. [Exhibit-8]
- “Skyʼs about to poop his pants I’m going out tonight.” [Exhibit-9]
- Her car doesn’t have a mounted TV to head off tantrums from Sky. [Exhibit-10]
- Cannot concentrate with Sky being at home. [Exhibit-11]
- “Can’t even be a good mom right now.” [Exhibit-12]
- Being a mom is a beyond 24/7 job. [Exhibit-13]
- Cannot get anything done while Sky is home. [Exhibit-14]
- Won’t make dinner, children have been too difficult. [Exhibit-15]
- Sky is driving her nuts. [Exhibit-16]
- Sky is “a brat” [Exhibit-17]
- Can’t be silly with Ford in front of Sky [Exhibit-18]
- Sky started crying when he saw Kristin. [Exhibit-19]
- “It’s so hard” with the kids. [Exhibit-20]
- Complaints about being with the kids all day. [Exhibit-21]
- “My head feels like it’s going to explode out of my ass.”[Exhibit-22]
- Baby is hard and she can’t cook [Exhibit-23]
- Kristin saying she’s going crazy. [Exhibit-24]
- Sky “an absolute disaster.” [Exhibit-25]
- An all-out tantrum from Sky. [Exhibit-26]
- Kristin’s immune system is weak because of the children. [Exhibit-27]
- A hellish week having both kids and a speeding ticket. [Exhibit-28]
- Ford is driving her crazy. [Exhibit-29]
- Both kids in a bad mood. [Exhibit-30]
- Sky being such a brat. [Exhibit-31]
- Sky punched Kristin, he’s screaming and being combative. [Exhibit-32]
- Upset because school is closed due to weather. [Exhibit-33]
- Kristin doesn’t know how to deal with Sky. [Exhibit-34]
- Elizabeth Leiter, Kristin’s sister, asks her how the children are. Kristin says they are brats. [Exhibit-35]
- While Sky and I are camping, Kristin thinks taking care of Ford is too much. [Exhibit-36]
- Nanny (Tetiana Burrill) is off for a few days, Kristin says she can’t deal. [Exhibit-37]
Amir... Were Your Children Really That Difficult?
The answer is a resounding NO.
Children can’t articulate their feelings, so at times they can get frustrated. Spoiler alert! They are children.
Like all children, my sons thrive on consistency, schedule and well-balanced structure. Lack of those very important things can directly contribute to any child getting confused and behaving differently.
Anytime they were in my care, they were polite, well-behaved and well-mannered, sweet little boys and a joy to be around, constantly exploring and learning new things. All they wanted to do was to be kids and play.
But, tragically, Kristin didn’t want anything to do with her children at all—until she filed for divorce! Now miraculously she wants to be a full-time mommy and have full custody of the very same children she could not quit complaining about. But that didn’t end there… Kristin had to also deprive her own children of an amazing, caring and loving father—whom they have not seen for 10 months.
Is this Emotional Abandonment?
According to top research, repeated emotional abandonment of children is a toxic issue that often haunts and cripples people for life (source). That is why I’m telling my story, sharing this evidence, writing these painful posts designed to shine the light of truth on the reality of what it really means to have Kristin Mehera Leiter Golestan as a mother. I want to save my boys and to be the loving, stable father they need in their lives, as do all children where possible.
I shudder to think of what life would be like for my boys without the Nanny, the private schools, the therapy, the domestic help, and all the bells and whistles I still provide for them to this day, every day.
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“Often people aren’t aware of their emotional needs and just feel that something’s missing. But people have many emotional needs in intimate relationships. They include the following needs:
- To be listened to and understood
- To be nurtured
- To be appreciated
- To be valued
- To be accepted
- For affection
- For love
- For companionship
Consequently, if there is high conflict, abuse, or infidelity, these emotional needs go unmet. Sometimes, infidelity is a symptom of emotional abandonment in the relationship by one or both partners. Additionally, if one partner is addicted, the other may feel neglected, because the addiction comes first and consumes the addict’s attention, preventing him or her from being present.” (quoted with gratitude via PsychCentral.com)
Why do children behave differently?
In an upcoming story, I will give examples of how beautifully the children behave while they are in my care. I will also touch on why children may behave differently with Kristin and I.
What do you think? Isn’t every child meant to be cherished, so they can be the funny, sweet, inquisitive creatures they can be?
Please scroll down to the comments below and share your point of view on this heartbreaking situation, especially for my children. And again, thanks so much for your enthusiastic support! I don’t know how I could have made through all this without the love and support of my family and friends. This is the first step in our creating community around Helping Every Loving Parent (HELP) to spend time with their children. Every story is important.
Footnote: The Charleston Family Court and the Guardian ad Litem (GAL), Maria Averill, who are tasked with doing what’s in the best interest of the children, refused to consider any of the evidence I’ve shared with you. And as it stands, Kristin has custody of my children.