This is the second post in this 5 part series, that takes a close look at what my marriage to Kristin Mehera Leiter Golestan was like. I’m sharing my experiences and evidence, all of which has already been shared with the Charleston Family Court, in hopes that it will show just how much Sky and Ford need to be with a stable parent, their loving Father, instead of a mother who is not up to the job of solo parenting.
Red Flags #2 and #3: Abortions I Never Wanted
During the course of our marriage, Kristin had two abortions without even discussing it with me, the father of the children.
Abortion #1: 2012
Kristin found out she was pregnant. I was overflowing with excitement and joyful that I was going to be a father. I immediately began picturing our lives as a couple with children. Kristin, though, was very hesitant. She said she’d have to think about it, and led me believe that she was still considering what to do—while she had in fact begun an abortion using medication obtained in NYC during a visit there with her mother, Mary Clayton Leiter.
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I was devastated
Kristin then went to crazy lengths to get me back. She sent me pictures of an ultrasound, saying she had not aborted our first child.
I found her abortion pills. I called her out on her lies. She then emailed me this long and convoluted story saying she still was carrying the baby, and that the Adderall and Ambien I’d found were not for her. I didn’t believe her. When I found out that she had aborted what would have been our first child, without telling me, I was heartbroken. I left. I didn’t want to be with her anymore.
Children and Religion: Tools for Manipulation
Then she sent a loving, heartfelt email. At the time, I wanted every word to be true. I was in love with her. You can read the letter for yourself here.
Later in our marriage, I realized that she used having children as a bargaining chip. She never wanted them, and even today, in our divorce proceeding, she’s using our little innocent sons for her own financial gain.
After her abortion of our first child, Kristin suggested we meet in person. To win me back, she promised to have children and even to convert to Islam—something I’d never suggested or would have ever asked, but that she knew would have made me extremely happy.
Her ploy worked! We got back together.
And a few months later we began planning to have a baby. I’d planned a surprise party for her 26th birthday, a big gathering of family and friends from out of town to join us in Key West, Florida. This was planned for her actual birthday, which was February 7th—the day we found out that she was pregnant with our first son, Sky Maximillian. So the surprise party turned out to be not only her birthday, but the fact that we were going to be parents! I was over the moon.
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Abortion #2: Our son Sky was 6 months old
We found out that Kristin was pregnant with what would have been our second child. She didn’t want to keep the baby, and although I cried and begged her, she aborted again. Again, I was devastated.
Our happiest times?
When she was pregnant—because that’s only when she would get off her medications, which included Adderall, Ambien, and various SSRIs and painkillers. She had drug dependency issues from the day we met, with side effects that made her snappy, moody, tired, weak, sick and paranoid.
[Next in this Series]: Life with Kristin Golestan: An Affair I Remember
What do you think? Is it possible that trust was irrevocably broken by the lies Kristin told surrounding both of these abortions? Is it possible that there were more, even? I don’t know for sure, but this was enough for me.
Please scroll down to the comments below and share your point of view on this tragic situation. And again, thanks so much for your enthusiastic support! I don’t know how I could have made through all this without the love and support of my family and friends. This is the first step in our creating community around Helping Every Loving Parent (HELP) to spend time with their children. Every story is important.