This is the third post in this 5 part series, that takes a close look at what my marriage to Kristin Mehera Leiter Golestan was like. I’m sharing my experiences and evidence, all of which has already been shared with the Charleston Family Court, in hopes that it will show just how much Sky and Ford need to be with a stable parent, their loving Father, instead of a mother who is not up to the job of solo parenting.
Nursing School—and Kristin Golestan’s Affair with Bradley Mueller
In late 2014 Kristin told me that she wanted to go nursing school at The Medical University of South Carolina (MUSC) and become a CRNA, a nurse anesthetist. What an interesting career decision for one who has established drug dependency issues! At the time, still not realizing the extent of her drug and alcohol abuse, I fully supported her decision—also not realizing that going back to school was also Kristin’s way of not having to take care of Sky.
[Related Post]: Life With Kristin Golestan: Her Addictions
For 2 Years, I was Sky’s Primary Caregiver
From January 2015 till January 2017, I took care of Sky from the moment he woke up to when he went to sleep. I bathed, fed and took him to baby classes. We went camping, fishing, on trips to the aquarium and the Children’s Museum. We went grocery shopping. You can see a full account, including pictures and text conversations here.
I did all of that while running Micfo and being the family’s sole provider.
I never complained. I never thought about it. Why? Because I took huge pride in being a father and I loved every second of being Daddy to my boys, Sky and Ford. Don’t take my word for it! See for yourself here.
Start of an Affair
From February 2015 to February 2016, during her time at MUSC nursing school, Kristin was having an extramarital affair with her classmate, Bradley “Brad” Mueller. His name was saved in her phone as “Macy.”
Kristin even sold and traded Ambien and Adderall with friends in exchange for cheating the nursing school exams at MUSC.
Everyone in her nursing class at MUSC knew about their affair. You can see the text messages she exchanged with Brad (aka Macy). Kristin even bragged to her friends that Bradley Mueller left his girlfriend, Emily Griffin, to be with her.
Why We Argued
Even though I had no idea what was really going on, Kristin wasn’t ever home, spending most of her time with her lover, either at school, in the library or at his place. I would get concerned. Who wouldn’t?
And then, she’d storm around and leave, saying she “couldn’t deal with this” and needed to go study. I will discuss more about her constant anger and abusive behavior in future posts.
[Related Post]: Life With Kristin Golestan: Abortions I Never Wanted
Kristin’s Get Out of Jail Free Card? Having Children
This had become a devastating pattern. And I had to make it stop by doing the only sane thing: to file for divorce so I would never get Kristin pregnant again, risking the lives of my unborn children.
When I found out about Kristin’s affair with Bradley Mueller, I met with an attorney. But, any time I discussed divorce, Kristin would pretend she wanted children. In fact, she convinced me that having another child would resolve many of our issues.
Yes, I was that naïve
I wanted to believe! It has always been my dream to have a big family, loving and joyful, with lots of children bouncing around. So, in May 2016 we planned a trip to Hawaii to try to reconnect, to rebuild our relationship. And sure enough, June 20th, 2016 she surprised me with a positive pregnancy test. Yes! We were pregnant with our second son, Ford Kingsman. I was over the moon with excitement!
Why I finally left
I couldn’t bear any more neglect, not for my children and not for myself. I knew, finally, that nothing would ever change. So I emailed Kristin, stating I wanted a trial separation because I’d come to believe that that would be the best for our sons. You can read my email here. On November 28, 2018, we officially separated.
After moving out, I set up two couples counseling sessions. Kristin didn’t show up to either one.
December 8, 2018…
Kristin secretly took the children to Myrtle Beach.
December 14, 2018…
I was served with divorce papers (more on the content of the divorce later).
I hope this gives some context for my actions, and why I’ve fought so hard to get access to my sons. Wouldn’t any primary parent? Wouldn’t any parent who cares about the health and safety of their children want them safe from addiction and neglect?
[Next in this Series]: Kristin Golestan, Fully Staffed Yet Overwhelmed Mother
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