This is the first post in this 2 part series, that takes a close look at how depriving my children of spending Christmas with their father wasn’t enough, so they attempted to rob them of Persian New Year.
So Little Time
As discussed in an earlier post, Judge Timothy H. Pogue only allowed me to see my children two nights every other week, for total of 4 days in a calendar month. Because I’m Muslim, despite all my polite entreaties via all the available channels within the Charleston Family Court system, he decided I didn’t need Christmas… and out of 25 Persian and Muslim holidays, I only got 4 days, 3 days for the Persian New Year and 1 day to Celebrate Eid at the end of Holy month of Ramadan.
And I’ve got to tell you… I’m the most over-the-moon, wildly excited about secular Christmas guy you will ever meet! I will be sharing videos that show my lifelong Christmas spirit. It’s what everybody does in Iran, so of course my extended family is all about Peace on Earth and Goodwill to Mankind too.
As if all that wasn’t cruel enough, Kristin’s attorney, Marie-Louise Ramsdale, then attempted to rob my children of Persian New Year with their father, Amir Golestan.
On March 19th, 2019 my former domestic attorney, Ann Frances Bleecker, emailed Kristin’s attorney, Marie-Louise Ramsdale to say that I would like to exercise the court order and have my children for three days (March 20-22) in order to celebrate Persian New Year.
One minute later, at 11:45am, Marie-Louise Ramsdale replies: “We do not agree to this time period.”
Ann Frances Bleecker responded saying that Kristin doesn’t get to disagree, as per the court order I am allotted three days for Persian New Year. Marie-Louise Ramsdale sends another one-liner repeating “we disagree”. Here’s the email exchange.
What Could Motivate Such Grinch-like Behavior?
Did Marie-Louise Ramsdale decide to shut down this conversation—in less than 2 minutes—on her own? Shouldn’t an attorney first check the court order, and then liaise with her client? How could she have accomplished all of that in under 2 minutes? I have to wonder why she jumped to such a hard-hearted, outrageous decision.
Was It Cruelty or Subtle Extortion?
I can only wonder what the purpose was to deny a loving, law-abiding father a little time with his kids at Christmas and Persian New Year, especially as it was the children’s fondest desire? What’s wrong with letting a little more love, a little more joy, a little more meaningful connection into the world at such a time? Could it really have been so necessary to deprive me, Sky, and Ford so cruelly without even asking Kristin, their mother, for her say in the matter? Or might this have been another attempt by Marie Louise Ramsdale to drag this litigation on and rack up more bills? What do you make of this situation?
With the Holidays just around the corner, I hope and pray the Motion to Dismiss this Divorce gets the attention it deserves. It’s based on Kristin’s and my month long, living together as a family reconciliation last Fall. See here a copy of the motion I submitted on September 16th, 2020.
What about the Guardian?
My attorney reached out to the guardian ad litem (GAL), Maria Averill because in this kind of situation the GAL can and should step in to make a decision based on the court order. Maria Averill had the authority to tell Kristin and her attorneys that they were in violation of a visitation clause and must comply, for the best interests of the children.
What did she do?
What do you think? What could be at the bottom of such a flippantly cruel disregard for the welfare of my children, her express responsibility as their assigned South Carolina Guardian Ad Litem?
[Next in the Series]: Grinches Who Stole Christmas and Persian New Year? You Decide: Part 2
Please scroll down to the comments below and share your point of view on this stunning situation, especially for my children. And again, thanks so much for your enthusiastic support! I don’t know how I could have made through all this without the love and support of my family and friends. This is the first step in our creating community around Helping Every Loving Parent (HELP) to spend time with their children. Every story is important.
Footnote: The Charleston Family Court and the Guardian ad Litem (GAL), Maria Averill, who are tasked with doing what’s in the best interest of the children, refused to consider any of the evidence I’ve shared with you. And as it stands, Kristin has custody of my children.