This is the last post in this 2 part series, that takes a close look at how depriving my children of spending Christmas with their father wasn’t enough, so they attempted to rob them of Persian New Year.
Sky’s Excitement Crushed
Sky was so excited to spend Iranian New Year with me and his grandparents and aunts and uncles. He knew there would be a full-on celebration, that he’d be painting eggs, feeding the goldfish, opening presents, doing the prayers and everything else that he so badly wanted to be part of. In fact, Sky was so excited that the night before the first thing he said on our Skype call was “am I going to daddy’s for Persian New Year? ”
Why would Kristin’s attorney, Marie-Louise Ramsdale, make it so difficult for the children to spend three days with their father at one of the most important holidays of the Persian year?
Huge, Avoidable Legal Fees Spent
I invested tens of thousands of dollars, to cover attorneys’ fees and the guardian’s fees, just so that I could see my children for Persian New Year (Nowruz). After all that…they all finally agreed I could have the children for Persian New Year—with a caveat: it had to be three non-consecutive days. The boys and I were given three overnights; Wednesday and Thursday then Saturday. Who does that? And, more importantly, why, I wonder?
Hearsay vs. Evidence
I went into the details of the recording not to bore you with drama, but to give you context. Later the former guardian ad litem, Maria Averill and Karen Tarpey, the child therapist, alleged that I had told Sky his “mommy is a bad mommy”. These two professionals knowingly provided false testimony and recommended that my visitations with my children be suspended. More on that in an upcoming story.
I provided the court the actual evidence: the audio recording where Sky, in his own words, says that I, his father, did not ever say anything bad about his mother to him. What happened to my evidence? They didn’t even consider it. Once again, the court took hearsay over actual proof.
Who was the judge who ruled in favor of my visitation being suspended?
Judge Timothy Pogue… the same judge who denied me Christmas because “father is Iranian-Muslim and does not recognize Christmas.” The same judge who previously relied on hearsay to deprive me of my children.
What do you think of a Family Court system that’s giving every appearance of adjudicating based on hearsay over actual proof? Is there some backchannel conversation going on that influences decision making? If so, is that even an OK thing to do here in America? I certainly don’t know, but would love any clarity you can offer on this situation that appears to be shrouded in inappropriate mystery.
Please scroll down to the comments below and share your point of view on this outrageous situation, especially for my children. And again, thanks so much for your enthusiastic support! I don’t know how I could have made through all this without the love and support of my family and friends. This is the first step in our creating community around Helping Every Loving Parent (HELP) to spend time with their children. Every story is important.
Footnote: The Charleston Family Court and the Guardian ad Litem (GAL), Maria Averill, who are tasked with doing what’s in the best interest of the children, refused to consider any of the evidence I’ve shared with you. And as it stands, Kristin has exclusive custody of my children.